Wednesday, July 23, 2014
Kabul (BNA) In a multiethnic country, with different culture and traditions, like Afghanistan particularly in the remote provinces, the groom households are facing a series of difficulties when are forced by the bride families to bring Eidis [precious items such as jewelries, clothing, foodstuff etc from the groom house for that of the bride] at the threshold of Eid festival.
Under the vicious tradition, the girl, when gets married and taken to the groom house are sometimes tortured in a bid to avenge the expenses, they have made during their engagement something in harsh confrontation to the holy Islamic teaching.
Fortunately in the capital Kabul and few provinces of the country, the culture is moderately being observed, with the households remaining in firm unity. Households are in different perceptions and believe during Eid or Nawrooz festivals same with high insights are not ready to force their counterparts to suffer an affordable expensive means or edible items when they engage their sons or daughters.
The household characteristic and personality is the key, how to observe the traditions either reasonably or expensively meet the requests of the bride households. One 1[the writer] was asked to attend a ceremony in which a groom family had brought Eidi, (items usually taken to bride house) I sat beside the engaged girl. She was extremely unpleased with the expenses she described to have been beyond her fiancé economic ability. The girl said her finance was not in an economic condition to provide so many Items included jewelries and some high priced edible items. She said the groom was the only supporter of his family members, as she feared the money may have been received in loan to provide such precious ornaments alongside high priced edible stuffs. The room in which we were seating was full of what the groom household had brought (however in their own consent), but it was seen a hugely over expenditure popularized among vast number of Afghan people in more Than 90 percent of the country’s population. The items provided for the bride house included makeup agents, jewelries, clothes and shoes, as well as a heavy chunk of fresh and dried fruits. While anything relates to bride’s aftermaths, and the girl when married might had been sometime scoffed for her family’s asking heavy quantity of different staffs as Eide, both families should be convinced that they should do what based on an ordinary citizen’s economy. However the fiancée was not too much educated or in an age cold distinguish between good and well, but she was naturally on a foresight, criticizing what she said a wicked tradition, the Afghans are still resorting to.
